Interesting question. I run into this scenario from time to time on the QV cars. If I'm sure that the:
-Liner projection is correct
-The head surface is flat (or skimmed a few thousandths)
-I properly lubed/pre-lubed the head fasteners.
-With torque to yield fasteners/procedures, the studs should be inspected and/or final torque verified.
If these conditions can be verified, then I don't worry and proceed. As I recall, in one of the WSMs, a trace amount of seepage along the outer seem is acceptable.
I too have read these posts ad nauseum. Frankly, there may be a problem somewhere, but I haven't seen it in the last 300 or so head jobs/engines I've done. I fire 'em up and they seal within seconds. And I'm a big fan of the Elring gaskets.
If you're torque wrench has the capability to read "final torque" at the 90 degree angle, was that number consistent stud to stud? If so, that's a pretty good indicator that you've got the head on tight.