Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: San Francisco
Ferrari Life Posts: 6,320
individualism vs groupism
I would like to discuss this after having done it just a few days ago. The converstation got my blood level up a bit as the person wouldn't really listen to my opinion or let me explain myself.
I think that a moderate level of the two mixed is ideal. For a society to function there has to be a level of conforming. Too much individualism will only lead to selfishness. The word itself focuses on the person and I believe lends itself to a ME, ME, ME attitude. The more this develops the less a person cares about others. Furthermore, in a society with a large focus on the individual there comes a point where the person is always comparing themself with others. He has brand X so I have to get brand Y to be different.
In a group society however a person realizes they are part of that society and some things are not acceptable. The person has to act more accordingly to the group and not how they see fits them. It can reduce the persons individual expression (ie wearing a uniform to school vs whatever the person desires) but this does not mean the person has become like everyone else and therefore "boring." The person is still an independent thinker with ideas. I use shopping as an example because it is a clear example of the two different ideas. In the conformist society everyone is suppose to be similar so when my friend has brand X I get brand X and then the next person does and so on.
The shopping example is a reflection of the different ways of living (ie a Spanish style house is a reflection of their culture not their culture iteself).
Now what I think and what the person never let me say. Conforming to a set of unwritten rules in a society is benefical even though the person may lose some freedom and may not like some of the rules. It is for the great good of all not themself. But they can still express themself individually by wearing what they want, reading what they want, listening to the music they want etc but it doesn't mean they can have a party until 4AM while everyone else is trying to sleep. It means realizing we are all part of this world and what is done by one effects the surrounding others.
It is the "F off, I'm going to do what I want (individual)" and the "you can't think that (group)" attitudes that need to go from both but never will.